“You can never love another person unless you are equally involved in the beautiful but difficult spiritual work of learning to love yourself. There is within each of us, at the soul level, an enriching fountain of love. In other words, you do not have to go outside of yourself to know what love is. This is not selfishness and it is not narcissism; they are negative obsessions with the need to be loved. Rather this is the wellspring of love within the heart.”  John O'Donohue

We all crave connection, but it cannot be on our terms alone.  We are called to become relational, taking others into account as powerfully as we do ourselves. It means we go for the deeper communion that involves a kind of reverence for the people in our lives, while at the same time being so very true to our highest selves.

This is the terrain of the soul, and it is wise to have a guide if you've lost your way with each other.  Each of you must become masterful in navigating the 3 stages of relationships, if you are to evolve your relationship to its highest potential.

My Treatment Specialties Include:

• Resolving ambivalence and coming into full clarity about your commitment.
• Healing from an extramarital affair.
• Healing and transcending childhood wounds that interfere with adult intimacy
• Conscious communication that gives you the skill to create the relationship of your dreams.
• Skillful conflict resolution that supports safety and passion.
• Healing sexual ruptures and strengthening the sexual connection.
• Learning how to live a relational life.
• Courageous parenting that raises secure and emotionally intelligent children.
• Conscious uncoupling that leaves both people and all involved feeling whole.

I believe that you can keep a vow to love your partner and also keep your vow to yourself by having a conscious divorce. The is the work of uncoupling. This means no more blame, shame, or projection, but actually doing what it takes to drop all that and let go with love.

Ketamine Assisted Treatment With Couples

At times, depression, anxiety, and addiction in one or both partners can derail a relationship. I have been using the powerful tool of Ketamine Assisted Treatment (KAP)  to help clients lift out of the pain and create a new template for their lives.

In addition to breaking the cycle of despair, this cutting-edge treatment can assist a person to wean off SSRI’s and other psychopharmaceuticals, without the severe withdrawal often associated with such a transition.

The use of ketamine losenges prescribed by an MD offers a client the opportunity for a larger psychedelic does, or a smaller dose that creates a psycholytic effect, and serves as a lubricant to treatment. Both ways enhance the ability of each person to look at aspects of their lives they have not been able to face, often due to trauma.

When ketamine is used in couple’s work, the temporary blurring of the boundaries between self and other enhance the capacity for a couple to heal deep attachment wounds that have kept them from deepening their connection.